47 DAYS ON THE WALL – It’s a Strategy Not a Destination


Life can change in an instant; a…Last Breath …Phone Call …Knock at the Door …Divorce …Career move …Physical Move …Promotion …Demotion …any Unplanned Consequence.   How you manage the change depends on how clearly you understand YOU.

SUCCESS IS A STRATEGY, NOT A DESTINATION!

As you seek to manage stress and find clarity, balance and synergy in your life, you may recognize the hours spent  in creating and refining business plans or career paths; while, little attention to building a life plan.  Now, here you are.  The point where you realize energy spills over between your personal life and your work life.  What affects one side of the equation affects the other side.

The human spirit seeks security, control, and affection (approval).   Your perspective of life revolves around four stages of growth:  1) Survival, 2) Stability, 3) Success, and 4) Significance. Some may confuse significance with privilege.  However, privilege speaks to conformity, while significance is the product of transformation.  And, it is transformation (not privilege) that gets you to what you seek.

Even if your desire to grow a business or career,  your key to bringing balance and harmony into your life begins with your personal life plan. A plan built from the elements that set actions to your dreams and provide tools to manage and maintain your success cycle.  Remember, success is a strategy… not a destination, and that strategy is defined by you.

Today, Start a 100 Day Journal.  Set aside a few minutes at the beginning and end of your day to write in your exercises and thought.  Create your gratitude list, deconstruct and reconstruct the day as you bless the day and let it go.  Starting from where you are right now, begin defining strategies to get you where you want to go; define how you want to live, work and play, and discover what is important to you along the way.

Think about where you are now in your life.  Consider your work, play, relationships finances and anything that is important to you.

Balance Wheel
WHEEL OF BALANCE

A.   My quality of life on a scale of 1-10 (10 being the best ever) is:  ____________

B.   What would it take to be a 10? What would it take to be a 10+? What would it take to be a 10++?

C.   List your real life responsibilities (Family, Available Funds, etc.)

D.  Who are you really?

  1. What does that mean?
  2. Define that:
  3. Tell me more:
  4.   List ten things that bring you a sense of joy and well-being:

F.  List 10 things that make you unhappy:

G.  List 50 things for which you are grateful:

This is the 6th Annual 100-DAY-CHALLENGE to the end of the year.How are you doing on your 2014 goals?  Do you have your ACTION PLAN yet?  What one thing can you do today to get you closer to your goal? There is a natural tendency to drift and lose focus as we approach the end of anything.  Drift can kill momentum and zap energy causing you to lose sight of the goal.   Take stock of where you are (right now) and use the final 100 days of the year to encourage, clear the clutter and build momentum.  This year we a look at – WHATEVER YOU PUT TO USE GROWS  how it  may help you or hurt you.

demo picture to croppedSuzy Graven is a Writer, Speaker and Life/Work Strategy Coach. She produces documentaries and leadership training seminars under the banner “Woman Behind the Brand™”.  Her unique experiences provides a doorway to work and learn from amazing leaders, CEOs, entrepreneurs along with the sage of those who work closest to nature. This perspective serves as a catalyst for women wanting to grow their professional and personal lives. It leads to a thinking (anchored in real possibility) that generates vision and translates into effective action. You will gain power in dealing with every-day issues, and become free to live a major league life.   Go to http://suzygraven.com. For information on Suzy’s coaching and to book a her as a speaker, send your requests to:  suzy@suzygraven.com.

57 DAYS ON THE WALL – Where’s Your Hangout


It’s better to hang out with people better than you. Pick out associates whose behavior is better than yours and you’ll drift in that direction. –Warren Buffett

If you were to ask Warren Buffett where to begin when designing a successful model for life and pursuing your career, he would tell you that you learn through experience. Whether it be your own or from others with experience.  His own life story illustrates the power of learning from others and their models.  Arguably the greatest investor of all time, Buffett is a student of success models in his field.  As he gained experience along the way, he added his own creative touches and tones; shaping the models with his own unique thumb print. Warren Buffett is a living example of how hanging out with the right people teaches you how to shape models that reap great rewards.Model

You are surrounded with all kinds of great role models, business models,  financial models, investing models, relationship models, teaching models, acting and reacting models, relaxation models.  Replicating the right model gets you where you want consistently faster.  Be aware of your drift. The environment you are in can either lead to success or kill achievement.

Coaching Notes

  • Look at your goals; are they vibrant and reflect your Life Manifesto?
  • What fundamental model will you adopt?
  • What action can you take today that drives you closer to reaching your goal?

62 DAYS ON THE WALL – The Myth in Fear of Failure


Shining StarHave you noticed lately that everywhere you look you see the limiting value in fear of failure?  It appears to take top prize when it comes real and voodoo psyche as  to the reason why you do not succeed.  Yes, progress may be stifled because of fear.  It is part of your survival instinct (fight or flight).  Yet, success is achieved with healthy fear.  Well served fear flashes a red light, forcing  you to take a look as you set course toward a vision or goal. More often than not, you find that it is not the “fear of failure” that stops you, but rather undefined goals.

Your goal is that bright star to which you hitch your wagon. A clearly defined goal provides  you your sense of direction.  If you were to ask one of the most versatile authorities on the science of human potential, Zig Ziglar, he would say,  “When obstacles arise, you change your direction to reach your goal; you do not change your decision to get there.”

Check your fear.  Define your goal.  Don’t waste time reflecting on what didn’t work.  Pick yourself up, dust yourself and own the future you want. Do what you need to do to set your direction and create it.

62 DAYS ON THE WALL:  This is the 6th Annual 100 DAY CHALLENGE to the end of the year. How are you doing on your 2014 goals?  Do you have your ACTION PLAN yet?  What one thing can you do today to get you closer to your goal? There is a natural tendency to drift and lose focus as we approach the end of anything.  Drift can kill momentum and zap energy causing you to lose sight of the goal.   Take stock of where you are (right now) and use the final 100 days of the year to encourage, clear the clutter and build momentum.  This year we a look at – WHATEVER YOU PUT TO USE GROWS – how it may help you or hurt you.


 

Suzy CroppedSuzy Graven is a Writer, Speaker and Life/Work Strategy Coach. She produces documentaries and leadership training seminars under the banner “Woman Behind the Brand™”.  Her unique experiences provides a doorway to work and learn from amazing leaders, CEOs, entrepreneurs along with the sage of those who work closest to nature. This perspective serves as a catalyst for women wanting to grow their professional and personal lives. It leads to a thinking (anchored in real possibility) that generates vision and translates into effective action. You will gain power in dealing with every-day issues, and become free to live a major league life.   Go to http://suzygraven.com. For information on Suzy’s coaching and to book a her as a speaker, send your requests to:  suzy@suzygraven.com.

73 DAYS ON THE WALL – Out of Control #@X?*


WBB SCRIBBLE PAD73 days until 2015… How are you doing on your 2014 goals?  Have you experienced computer and technology breakdowns that forced your hand this week?  Waiting… waiting… waiting for fixes, sputters and stops; it can be a noxious situation for a fractious mind and pioneer spirit that craves movement to feel satisfied.  Yet, somewhere, in the frustration, your mind starts doing what it does best… wander! Are you the type of person whose friends and family say, “Be careful, she’s thinking again?”

Sometimes it is good to lose control. Forced to take the time to collect yourself; you get present to where you are – in the moment – physically, spiritually, mentally and emotionally.  Just as your computer screen declares an information dump, so does your mind.  Somewhere between cobwebs and sparkling clean windows, you meet yourself.  Be careful, you are now armed with a long gratitude list and wonderful metaphors for living a rich- dynamic life; reduced to the simplest of terms.

Life, as you know it, changes and grows in directions over which you do not always have control.  While your first instinct is to get back to normal, you cannot prevail over change by trying to go back to what was. Normal is not where you were, it is where you are right now. Your best choice is to define and affirm your character in any given situation and how you choose to affect change.

Character is not genetic, it is habit. If you find yourself in the messy middle, begin to distinguish who you wish to be in any given situation. Think in terms of, “While I am not always graceful (and the road is not always smooth), the following remain who I choose to be personally and professionally every day. Write it on your bathroom mirror and on your refrigerator door in dry erase marker.  At the end of the day, write in a journal an act that supported the each point.

  1. I CAN – I WILL – I BELIEVE!
  2. I build trust and rapport in my relationships.
  3. I organize and carry out an effective plan.
  4. I develop creative vision.
  5. I am seen, acknowledged and validated for whom I am.
  6. I serve others.
  7. I balance stability with growth and change
  8. I keep a positive and optimistic perspective.
  9. I am a trusted adviser.

Our whole world moves, changes and transforms.  It is normal to want to hang on to what we know and have until we discover that we have become slaves to our past, our possessions, our relationships and our dreams.   Along the way, we justify our decisions.

73 DAYS ON THE WALL:  This is the 6th Annual 100 DAY CHALLENGE to the end of the year.How are you doing on your 2014 goals?  Do you have your ACTION PLAN yet?  What one thing can you do today to get you closer to your goal? There is a natural tendency to drift and lose focus as we approach the end of anything.  Drift can kill momentum and zap energy causing you to lose sight of the goal.   Take stock of where you are (right now) and use the final 100 days of the year to encourage, clear the clutter and build momentum.  This year we a look at – WHATEVER YOU PUT TO USE GROWS  how it  may help you or hurt you.

Suzy CroppedSuzy Graven is a Writer, Speaker and Life/Work Strategy Coach. She produces documentaries and leadership training seminars under the banner “Woman Behind the Brand™”.  Her unique experiences provides a doorway to work and learn from amazing leaders, CEOs, entrepreneurs along with the sage of those who work closest to nature. This perspective serves as a catalyst for women wanting to grow their professional and personal lives. It leads to a thinking (anchored in real possibility) that generates vision and translates into effective action. You will gain power in dealing with every-day issues, and become free to live a major league life.   Go to http://suzygraven.com. For information on Suzy’s coaching and to book a her as a speaker, send your requests to:  suzy@suzygraven.com.

78 DAYS ON THE WALL – Courage and Caution


“Courage is not the absence of fear, but the presence of faith.”

There are times when you take a leap of faith. Whether it is life, love, they-made-me-do-it or change-you-can-believe-in, faith (and the lack thereof) is a strong emotional glue that holds you to your convictions.

In this changing world, you often find yourself eager to do the right thing for your family, your work, your community and your world. No longer able to stay quiet, you struggle to find a way to play a role equal to what you believe attainable. Belief directs your frame-of-reference as you navigate through life with some reliability and purpose. You become more confident as your faith builds during your ever-transforming life.

Today, you are constantly showered with subjective, unreliable and false information regarding how clean you live, the food you eat, clothes you wear and your environmental impact. Emotional marketing magnifies the false narratives and stirs you into a state of overwhelm over what is right, ethical, healthy and environmentally sound.

And, there’s the rub. . .  Be cautious of where faith leads you. Belief is not always anchored in truth. You may find yourself fearfully clinging to a false belief (in something) as if it were a life preserver. Look before you leap!


Suzy CroppedSuzy Graven is a Writer, Speaker and Life/Work Strategy Coach. She produces documentaries and leadership training seminars under the banner “Woman Behind the Brand™”.  Her unique experiences provides a doorway to work and learn from amazing leaders, CEOs, entrepreneurs along with the sage of those who work closest to nature. This perspective serves as a catalyst for women wanting to grow their professional and personal lives. It leads to a thinking (anchored in real possibility) that generates vision and translates into effective action. You will gain power in dealing with every-day issues, and become free to live a major league life.   Go to http://suzygraven.com. For information on Suzy’s coaching and to book a her as a speaker, send your requests to:  suzy@suzygraven.com.

85 DAYS ON THE WALL – #1 Principle to Learn Anything and Live the Good Life


The Paredo Principle was named after the economist who, in 1906, first noted that 80 percent of the Italian farmland was owned by 20 percent of the population. HisPareto Principle focus, on this theory, confirmed his findings and lead to the principle that (good or bad) 80 percent of your results will come from 20 percent of your actions; known today as the 80/20 Rule. Richard Koch describes it as, “The principle of greatest outcome for time and effort expended.” He discloses that time and effort alone may give you results, but that time and effort spent on the 20 percent delivers 80 percent of the results. Timothy Ferris illustrates the point of focusing on the most effective 20% in
his book, “THE 4-HOUR CHEF – The simple path to cooking like a pro, learning anything and living the good life.”


The distribution is claimed to appear in several different aspects relevant to entrepreneurs and business managers. For example:

  • 80% of a company’s profits come from 20% of its customers
  • 80% of a company’s complaints come from 20% of its customers
  • 80% of a company’s profits come from 20% of the time its staff spend
  • 80% of a company’s sales come from 20% of its products
  • 80% of a company’s sales are made by 20% of its sales staff

Therefore, many businesses have an easy access to dramatic improvements in profitability by focusing on the most effective areas and eliminating, ignoring, automating, delegating or retraining the rest, as appropriate. (Section Source: wikipedia)


Today, focus your efforts on those that potentially deliver the greatest results by the end of the year.

This is the 6th Annual 100 DAY CHALLENGE to the end of the year.How are you doing on your 2014 goals?  Do you have your ACTION PLAN yet?  What one thing can you do today to get you closer to your goal? There is a natural tendency to drift and lose focus as we approach the end of anything.  Drift can kill momentum and zap energy causing you to lose sight of the goal.   Take stock of where you are (right now) and use the final 100 days of the year to encourage, clear the clutter and build momentum.  This year we a look at –  WHATEVER YOU PUT TO USE GROWS  how it  may help you or hurt you.

demo picture to croppedSuzy Graven is a Writer, Speaker and Life/Work Strategy Coach. She produces documentaries and leadership training seminars under the banner “Woman Behind the Brand™”.  Her unique experiences provides a doorway to work and learn from amazing leaders, CEOs, entrepreneurs along with the sage of those who work closest to nature. This perspective serves as a catalyst for women wanting to grow their professional and personal lives. It leads to a thinking (anchored in real possibility) that generates vision and translates into effective action. You will gain power in dealing with every-day issues, and become free to live a major league life.   Go to http://suzygraven.com. For information on Suzy’s coaching and to book a her as a speaker, send your requests to:  suzy@suzygraven.com.