99 days until the end of the year. How are you doing on your 2014 goals? Do you have your ACTION PLAN yet? What one thing can you do today to get you closer to your goal? There is a natural tendency to drift and lose focus as we approach the end of anything. Drift can kill momentum and zap energy causing you to lose sight of the goal. Take stock of where you are (right now) and use the final 100 days of the year to encourage, clear the clutter and build momentum. The first 90 Days re-sets a pace to achieve your year-end goals. The last 10 days celebrates how far you have come, leaving you energized with the stage set to make 2015 your Best Year Ever!!
This year we take a look at – WHATEVER YOU PUT TO USE GROWS – how it helps you or hurts you.
Beliefs that carried us here may be holding us back in our quest to go there.” – Marshall Goldsmith
When I was director of marketing at the Great Southwest Equestrian Center, I watched a novice horse trainer acquire his first two-year-old colt to break and train. The colt easily grasped his ground work. Over the next few months, I saw both colt and rider progress through the movements from ground work through to riding circles, figure-eights, reining, sidesteps, gates, lead changes and all the subtle queues used between rider and colt; all along, building trust and consistency in the relationship. Eager to show his work to his mentor, the young novice took his colt through its paces. Knowing he had reached all his goals set for the colt, the young novice turned to his sage adviser who grinned and said, “Nice work; be thankful for the ones that make you look good.”
Thus is the paradox of success: “The beliefs that carried us here may be holding us back in our quest to go there. From one of my favorite books on developing interpersonal relationships and good growth strategies: WHAT GOT YOU HERE WON’T GET YOU THERE by Marshall Goldsmith. Read it.
Goldsmith explains that while success builds your confidence, it can become delusional in terms of achievement, status and contributions. Further, these delusions may become a serious liability as it relates to change. When asked to change, we may think… “We do not have to change; who do they think I am?” Goldsmith breaks it down to a three part response: 1) We believe the other party is confused, 2) If they are not confused, they must be misinformed so the criticism does not apply to us. 3) When all else fails, we attack the other party. After all, we are smarter than they.
Goldsmith identifies four key beliefs in attaining future success. Each can make it tough to change: (a) our confidence from our past performance, (b) our ability to influence our success rather than luck, (c) our optimistic belief that our success will continue, (d) Our sense of control over our destiny (as opposed to being controlled by external forces).
Suzy Graven is a Writer, Speaker and Life/Work Strategy Coach. She produces documentaries and leadership training seminars under the banner “Woman Behind the Brand™”. Her unique experiences provides a doorway to work and learn from amazing leaders, CEOs, entrepreneurs along with the sage of those who work closest to nature. This perspective serves as a catalyst for women wanting to grow their professional and personal lives. It leads to a thinking (anchored in real possibility) that generates vision and translates into effective action. You will gain power in dealing with every-day issues, and become free to live a major league life. Go to http://suzygraven.com. For information on Suzy’s coaching and to book a her as a speaker, send your requests to: firstname.lastname@example.org.