85 DAYS ON THE WALL – Taming Vicious Circles

Tornado“The Customer is always right,”  becomes our default thinking when receiving the wrath or addressing the needs of (sometimes) hostile client or customer.  The fact that it is not true grinds against our integrity and lays a foundation for an uncomfortable relationship.  It may force us into a type of silence where we may fall prey to that person’s venting, will, and assigned meaning.  We then think of ourselves as the victim.

If this happens to you, repeat (to yourself three times)… “THE CUSTOMER IS NOT ALWAYS RIGHT, BUT THE CUSTOMER IS ALWAYS THE CUSTOMER.”  This simple shift of thought changes how you see the situation and empowers you to find the place to reconcile a relationship.  Furthermore, you get to choose your level of connection with that person.  To choose how you respond, ask yourself a few questions.  Is it necessary to maintain or restore the relationship?  Do you want it to be harmonious? What is the significance of pursuing reconciliation?

Once grasped, this concept frees you from getting drawn into all kinds of vicious circles.  It translates into personal situations in terms of he/she may not always be right, but your spouse is always your spouse, the ex will always be your ex-, your mother-in-law will always be your mother-in-law, your sibling will always be your sibling and your jerk boss will be… well, you get the drift.

This week, see where you can make the mental shift and tame  those  vicious circles in your life.


85 Days on the Wall to the end of the year; how are you doing on your 2013 goals? Do you have an ACTION PLAN yet? What one thing can you do today to get you closer to your goal?  There is a natural tendency to drift and lose focus as we approach the end of anything. Drift can kill momentum and zap energy causing you to lose sight of the goal. Take stock of where you are (right now) and use the final 100 days of the year to encourage, clear the clutter and build momentum. The first 90 Days sets a pace to achieve your year-end goals. The last 10 days celebrates how far you have come, leaving you energized with the stage set to make 2014 your Best Year Ever!!

Keep me posted!!

demo picture to croppedSuzy Graven is a Speaker and Life/Work Strategy Coach. She produces documentaries and leadership training seminars under the banner “Woman Behind the Brand™”.  Her unique experiences provides a doorway to work and learn from amazing leaders, CEOs, entrepreneurs along with the sage of those who work closest to nature. This perspective serves as a catalyst for women wanting to grow their professional and personal lives. It leads to a thinking (anchored in real possibility) that generates vision and translates into effective action. You will gain power in dealing with every-day issues, and become free to live a major league life.   Go to http://suzygraven.com. For information on Suzy’s coaching and to book as her as a speaker, send your requests to:  Suzy@suzygraven.com

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