Studies reveal that as much as 77% of the programs we carry in our heads are negative, counter-productive, or work against us. Researchers tell us that what we say about ourselves (whether true or not) program our thoughts. Programming influences our actions and how we see ourselves. It also affects how we think the world sees us. Programming determines our self-esteem, self-confidence, our attitudes and beliefs.
The good news is that you can change your programming. If you work the process over the next 90 days, you learned little-by-little the keys to move you out of the negative programming and develop habits to get you on the road to living a significant life.
In his book, WHO ARE YOU REALLY AND WHAT DO YOU WANT?, Dr. Shad Helmstetter (PhD) gives us ten key areas and eight important steps to goal setting. I add one element to the formula — INTENTION (vs. New Year’s resolution). Now is the time for you to take stock of where you are and your future self. How will you toast the past and turn to the future working the goals you define.
Don’t know where to start on your goals? Pull out your new journal and start by listing the ten key areas and rate them from 1-10 (one being the worst/ten being the best). Once you rate each key life area, ask yourself… “What would it take to be a 10?” Pick three areas to work and over the next 90 days follow the eight steps of goal setting, plus add your over-arching intention.
TEN KEY LIFE AREAS:
Life Style Self-Esteem
Health & Fitness Personal Organization & Control
Job/Career Personal Relationships
Money/Finances Personal Growth
Quality of Life Other _____________
EIGHT STEPS TO WRITING GOALS:
1. IDENTIFY the goal:
a. Goal of Enrichment – Internal desire to improve your life or expand your horizons.
b. Goal of Necessity – Usually brought on by something happening in your life that needs attention.
2. WRITE it down:
a. Your goal statement should always start with “To….”
b. Put it in words, write it down and keep it simple.
c. Under the goal attach… “I will see significant progress by (date).”
3. Write down an end DATE to reach the goal
4. List the OBSTACLES to reaching the goal
5. After each obstacle, write and date the ACTION STEPS you plan to take
6. PRIORITIZE your focus goals:
Even if you have two to three goals for each of your key areas, you can only focus on two or three of them at a time… each week examine which two or three goals you need to keep in front of you.
7. REVIEW and TRACK your goals on a weekly schedule: Update and change when necessary
8. Reward yourself when you overcome reach each goal (and reward yourself along the way as you overcome your defined obstacles)
COACHING NOTES ON MAKING ANNUAL INTENTION:
Your intention for the year becomes the blanket or mantle wrapped around each of your ten key areas. It filters throughout all elements of your life and naturally integrates into your goals. Begin by choosing an intention and asking yourself… “What does that mean to me?” Then write it out in your journal. By this time next year, you will find that having defined your intention and lived it throughout the year, you BECOME it. The intention is wholly integrated into your programming.
This is my year for…
• Purging /Letting Go
• Healthy Living/Thinking
• Unconditional Love
• Living Fully
• Bold Moves